Depression Self-Help Tip #1: Changing negative thinking
Depression puts a negative spin on everything, including the way you see yourself, the situations you encounter, and your expectations for the future. But while depression causes negative thinking, negative thinking also triggers and fuels depression, causing a vicious cycle that’s tough to escape.
Making it even tougher is the fact that our negative thoughts can be so automatic that we’re not even aware of them or that we can choose to control them.
The pessimistic thinking of depression is based on cognitive distortions that transform neutral, impersonal, or even positive events or situations into negative ones.
Top Ten Cognitive Distortions that Lead to Depression
* All-or-nothing thinking :
There’s no middle ground. You’re either a hero or a loser. The situation is either ideal or a disaster. If you make any mistakes at all, you look at yourself as a failure.
* Overgeneralization :
Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to happen over and over again in all situations. If you got turned down for one job, no company will ever hire you.
* The mental filter :
Dwelling on the negatives while filtering out all the positives. For example, you got an A on a term paper, but all you can think about is the one small criticism your professor made.
* Diminishing the positive :
Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count. If you were praised at work for a great presentation, you tell yourself that you just got lucky or it was an easy job that anyone could have aced.
* Jumping to conclusions :
Despite any proof to back it up, you go straight to a negative interpretation of events. You act as either a mind reader (assuming that someone is reacting negatively to you) or a fortune teller (you “know” that things will turn out badly).
* Magnification or minimization :
Also known as the binocular trick. You either magnify problems, blowing them way out of proportion, or you minimize your own achievements and positive qualities until they seem insignificant.
* Emotional reasoning :You buy into the idea that the way you feel reflects reality. If you feel like you’re worthless, that means it’s true.
* 'Should' and 'must' statements : You constantly beat yourself over the head with the things you should or shouldn’t do. This rigid to-do list of “shoulds” and “musts” leads to guilt, shame, and stress.
* Labeling and mislabeling : You label yourself according to what you do or don’t do. If you make a mistake, you slap on a negative label (failure, idiot, loser). These labels stick, long after the negative event is forgotten.
* Personalization : You assume guilt and responsibility for things that are outside your control. Whenever something goes wrong, you blame yourself.
If you’re depressed, cognitive distortions are probably part of your lifelong pattern of thinking. But you can’t break this bad habit by “just thinking positive.” Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thinking with realistic thinking. You can do this by identifying the cognitive distortions you tend to use, and systematically challenging them with the facts. This is a key component of cognitive behavior therapy, one of the most successful treatments for depression.
Ways to change negative thinking for the better:
* Think outside yourself.
Ask yourself if you’d say what you’re thinking about yourself to someone else. If not, stop being so hard on yourself. Think about less harsh statements that offer more realistic descriptions.
* Keep a “negative thought log”.
Whenever you experience a negative thought, jot down the thought and what triggered it in a notebook. Review your log when you’re in a good mood. Consider if the negativity was truly warranted. For a second opinion, you can also ask a friend or therapist to go over your log with you.
* Replace negatives with positives.
Review your negative thought log. Then, for each negative thought, write down something positive. For instance, “My boss hates me. She gave me this difficult report to complete” could be replaced with, “My boss must have a lot of faith in me to give me so much responsibility.”
* Socialize with positive people.
Notice how people who always look on the bright side deal with challenges, even minor ones, like not being able to find a parking space. Then consider how you would react in the same situation. Even if you have to pretend, try to adopt their optimism and persistence in the face of difficulty.
Depression Self-Help Tip #2: Cultivating supportive relationships
As human beings, we have a biological need to feel connected to others. Depressed human beings need the support of other people even more. On y
our own, it’s difficult to maintain perspective and sustain the effort required to succeed in treatment. But when you’re depressed, retreating into your shell is more appealing than socializing. The problem is that social isolation fuels depression and makes it even worse. When they’re alone, depressed people tend to revert to negative, unrealistic thinking, which only exacerbates feelings of worthlessness, shame, and alienation.
Maintaining relationships and incorporating social activities into your life is therefore one of the most important coping strategy for depression.
To get the social connection and support you need:
* Turn to trusted friends and family members.
In your depressed state, you’ve probably retreated from your most treasured relationships. However, it is these relationships that can get you through this tough time. Communicate your needs to the people you love and trust. Ask for help when you need it.
* Join a support group.
Find a group you can of other people working toward depression recovery. Being with others in the same boat can go a long way in reducing your sense of aloneness. You can also encourage each other, give and receive advice on how to cope, and share your experiences.
* See a therapist.
Therapy can help keep you on track with depression recovery. A supportive, thoughtful therapist can help you work through issues the depression has caused, change negative ways of thinking, and explore the root of your depression.
Depression Self-Help Tip #3: Healthy lifestyle habits
There is an undeniable link between physical and mental health. Depression can cause physical symptoms such as aches and pains, frequent illness, weight loss or gain, and insomnia. But on the flip side, making healthy lifestyle choices can dramatically improve your mood.
* Regular exercise.
* Healthy sleep habits.
* Daily sunlight.
* A nutritious diet.
* Avoiding alcohol and drugs.
Regular exercise can alter your brain chemistry by increasing serotonin levels and lead to feelings of wellbeing. According to Better Health Channel other factors that may help explain the benefits of exercise include:
* Taking an active role in your own recovery boosts your self-esteem
* Some forms of exercise, like team sports, are also social events.
* Physical activity burns up stress chemicals, like adrenaline, which promotes a more relaxed state of mind.
* Enjoying exercise may be distracting enough to break the vicious cycle of pessimistic thinking.
Exercise as an Antidepressant :
The following six exercise tips offer a powerful prescription for boosting mood:
1. Exercise now…and again. A 10-minute walk can improve your mood for two hours. The key to sustaining mood benefits is to exercise regularly.
2. Choose activities that are moderately intense. Aerobic exercise undoubtedly has mental health benefits, but you don't need to sweat strenuously to see results.
3. Find exercises that are continuous and rhythmic (rather than intermittent). Walking, swimming, dancing, stationery biking, and yoga are good choices.
4. Be wary of competitive sports. Exercise that pits people head-to-head with opponents may be too stressful, leading to a bad mood in the face of defeat.
5. Add a mind-body element. Activities such as yoga and tai chi rest your mind and pump up your energy. You can also add a meditative element to walking or swimming by repeating a mantra (a word or phrase) as you move.
6. Start slowly, and don't overdo it. More isn't better. Athletes who over train find their moods drop rather than lift.
Source: Adapted from 'Johns Hopkins Health Alerts '
Depression Self-Help Tip #4: Reducing stress
Stressful life events are hard for everyone, but stress poses a particular risk for who are depressed or prone to be. Not only can stress prolong or worsen depression, but it can also trigger it. In fact, stress is a major factor in depression relapse following recovery. In order to get over depression and stay well, it’s essential to learn how to minimize and cope with stress.
Coping with the Stress that Triggers Depression :
1) Identify your stressors :
Figure out all the things in your life that are stressing you out. Examples include: work overload, unsupportive relationships, substance abuse, taking on too much, or health problems. Once you’ve identified your stressors, you can make a plan to avoid them or minimize their impact.
2) Go easy on yourself :
Many depressed people are perfectionists, holding themselves to impossibly high standards and then beating themselves up when they fail to meet them. You can battle this source of self-imposed stress by challenging your negative ways of thinking.
3) Plan ahead:
If you know your stress triggers and limits, you will be able to identify and avoid many landmines. If you sense trouble ahead, protect yourself by dipping into your wellness toolbox and saying “no” to added responsibility.
4) Learn how to relax :
Since some stress is inevitable, knowing how to deal with it is important. There are many relaxation techniques that can help, including yoga, deep breathing, and meditation. Mindfulness meditation is particularly effective for relieving depression and stress.
Ref: helpguide.org